Bi-Weekly Sexual Freedom Newsletter Wednesday, October 7, 2020
Top Stories This Week
1. November 4th Is Coming 2. How college students can have safer sex; 3. The feminist history of fighting for universal childcare; 4. Intersections between ableism and white supremacy; 5. Dismantling the gender binary; 6. How to safely practice non-monogamy during the pandemic; and 7. Navigating the world as a queer non-binary asylum seeker.
November 4th Is Coming
JOIN US TODAY for the final program in our three-part series leading up to the election (you’re registered to vote, right? With a voting plan?) Carlie Steen moderates a conversation between Val Benavidez, Taylor Brown, and Rodrigo Heng-Lehtinen. RSVP here.
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How College Students Can Have Safer Sex This Semester (Rewire.News)
Cassandra Corrado shares four ways for educators on college campuses to think about sexual health in the age of COVID-19, including avoiding shaming students who chose to engage in sex: “Being on campus during the pandemic is risky—that’s just the reality. Our pandemic precautions might reduce that potential risk (by limiting social gatherings, pushing classes online, and changing how common spaces operate), but ultimately, risk will still be there. So add in a harm reduction approach, too. Instead of punishing the students you come across making out in the student union, have a conversation about role modeling and respecting their classmates’ comfort. Make sure they have access to the health services and barrier methods they need.” Read more.
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The Long Feminist History of Fighting for Universal Childcare (Bitch Media)
Elena Schilder discusses the feminist fight for universal childcare: “New attention is [...] being paid to universal childcare, thanks to mothers sharing their experiences of attempting to work remotely as they balance childcare responsibilities with job demands. It was a stressful reality before the pandemic, and it’s literally impossible to juggle all of these competing priorities now. This ‘balancing act’ narrative has been central to the feminist movement since at least the 1970s, when an array of related and aligned movements for women’s liberation pushed issues like childcare, reproductive justice and health, and workplace equality into the national spotlight. And yet as I grew up in the ’80s and ’90s and learned about women’s liberation, I never heard about childcare being an essential part of the movement.” Read more.
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Ableism and White Supremacy Are Intertwined—We Must Confront Them Together (Truthout)
Adam Hayden writes about the intersection of ableism and white supremacy: “Confronting ableism and revealing its shared features with white supremacy asserts the dignity of disabled people and overcomes dehumanizing practices that mimic white supremacist ideology. And more, challenging systemic hierarchies in all their forms extends an opportunity for people in privileged positions to question their own complicity in dominant systems, and when liberated from misguided rhetoric, closer to embracing their full humanity by recognizing the humanity in others.” Read more.
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Stop Joking About Gender Reveal Wildfires and Start Actually Dismantling the Binary (them.)
Wren Sanders provides actionable steps to take in dismantling the gender binary, including giving money directly to trans and gender nonconforming people: “Following TGNC activists on social media, particularly Instagram, is a great means of locating folks in need of mutual aid. Some accounts to start with include: The Okra Project, Marquise Vilsón Balenciaga, Walela Nehanda, and them. contributor Devin-Norelle. Donating what you can to signal boost these fundraisers, which support everything from affirming health care to paying rent, is an invaluable means of offering support.” Read more.
How to Safely Practice Non-Monogamy During the Pandemic (VICE)
Penda N'diaye offers advice on how to safely practice non-monogamy during the pandemic: “When sexting, calling, and FaceTime are the best bet for being involved with secondary and tertiary partners—who also might be spending most of their time indoors with primary partners in close quarters—some new conversations and guidelines are probably warranted. (For example: Imagine hearing your partner video sexting with their alternate partner in the next room for the first time.) Instead of letting things get awkward, get creative with your boundaries and rethink how you want to interact with people outside of your primary partnership. As many polyamorous people know, communication is key to success here even when public health isn't on the line.” Read more.
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Navigating the World as a Queer Non-Binary Asylum Seeker (Wear Your Voice)
An anonymous writer shares their experience as a queer non-binary asylum seeker: “I did not choose to come out as queer. I was publicly outed. Prior to that, I never made any public claims about my sexuality or my gender identity because I knew I could lose my life over it. To have myself thrown into the center of attention and discussion in any way was not a reality I was ready to face. None of that mattered though, because as long as I was merely perceived as queer, I was never really going to be safe in the Maldives. And so, I was forced to flee, not only out of concern for my own safety, but for those around me as well. I had to throw away a life I had worked hard for years to attain, and start from nothing.” Read more.